Can guys & gals be just friends?
Is it possible? I'd like to think it is, cos I got lots of great guy friends. One in particular who I've known since high school year 7(age 11), so thats around 8 years atm... crazy to think I've known him that long, and the rest of my high school buddies, though some I didnt get chummy with untill year 9/10. Early on it was just me, one of my gal friends, and my two guy friends. Twas awesome. Perfect balance. Even when, (as I predicted lol) my gal friend and one of the guy friends got together. Didn't last sadly, but ya'll know how paranoid girls can get right? I've heard people say ya can, and people say ya can't. Mind you, the latter is usually TV shows saying it, where everyone's sleeping with everyone else lol. (Read rest under the first pic if you want to.)
So, I ask you, can girls and guys be just friends and nothing more? That's platonic love, right? Spose it could be familial, since hanging with him is much like hanging with my brother, tis comfortable.(Yes I get on with my brother, yes I know its odd, all my friends have said so, so have some teachers and other ppl lol He can be a total dooche at times aswel ofc. Grumpy basterd. lol)
Who here has close friends of the opposite sex? And who don't feel anything lewd towards em lol?
I can't think of any male-female friendships in anime or manga that don't end up as couples.... you think of any?
I love having geek fests with my guy friend, who I shall refer to as Kyle(not his real name lol), marathons of games, tv, anime, whatever we fancy, eating tons of junk and stuff. Though recently, his girlfriend has finally released the crazy and said that she's not very happy with me staying over at his for geek fests. (This friend and his girlfriend have been together bout 2 years now btw, steady relationship, no breakups during it or anything.) So I find it totally unfair and stupid that shes paranoid about me!! Paranoia, jealousy, whatever it be, its stupid in HUGE amounts. I can understand why she wouldn't want a girl that wasn't her staying over at her boyfriends, but I've known the guy 8 years! He's one of my best friends and its totally stupid she would be this crazy on this... (I overused the word stupid lol)
I find it utterly hilarious that she's in the least bit threatened by me. She's gorgeous and lovely and so-so nice! He would never do anything to jeopardize his relationship with her and she should know it. I do know that in the past she's been jealous of my geek-tendancies and how him and me connect on that level, which she tried to compete with lol, but it just ain't possible and she should be able to accept that. (He's told me all this lol, obv I'm not allowed to relay anything back to her heh.)
Both pics come from the ToHeart 2 Another Days game CG pack.
Platonic relationships can be formed... Given the situation... o,0
situation?
yes it can be formed it depends mainly on how you & that opposite sex agrees to be in that kind of relationship or you yourself feels comfortable with what you have so there's nothing to worry about. But here's the catch, what if the opposite sex slowly falling in love with you because both of you have the same interests etc.?? Really so cliche but actually never gets old.
Yes one of my group of friends has females in it (two of 'em).. At times we would be staying over at our buddies' house and play console games/watch movies until the wee hours of the morning.. There are also times when we go to anime/gaming conventions :3
well when you ask that question, yes. Guys and girls can be simply friends. Complications however can change that answer. simple as that.
If said person is gay, but has friends of the opposite sex, it should work out perfectly fine, no?
Personally I stick with 2D over 3D. Their grammar isn't as horrible online.
Uh.. The topic isn't about the online world XD
I have a few friends like that. As for the anime question, I think their might be a few in Bleach, maybe one or two in Gundam 00, and do you think the trainer/cyborg pairs in Gunslinger Girl qualify?
Those trainer/cyborg pairs are definitely not platonic. x_x" Besides which, they'd be father/daughter more than lover anyway. (Except for, maybe, [SPOILERCENSOR])
Yes a girl and a guy can just be friends. But you have to be careful. It can be pretty easy to go from "just wanting to be friends," to "wanting something more."
I can honestly say in my 31 years. I have never encountered a situation where it was.. Just friends. Maybe one party of the relationship thought it was just friends.. but the other deep down wants more. I'm sure, your friend's girlfriend has an actual reason to be jealous.. You and him have lots of experiences together, a lot of history. In that position you are a threat.. cause all it would take it once instance for him to realize.. She's a girl!
We men, tend to be pretty dumb about somethings.
But in my humble opinion.. I've never seen the just friends thing work, it always ends up somehow either having feelings.. and not expressing them, thus getting hurt.. OR! One of them express those feelings and gets rejected. Thats if both people are attractive, and attractive to each other.. know what I mean.
About the only way, I can honestly say I'm just friends with a girl is.. if she's so, not my type as it were.. wether physically or mentally.. whatever the case may be.. that I don't want to even consider a relationship. But, I usually spell that out pretty early.
I'd have to agree with you - for the most part. I've been around long enough and can say that yes, most guys probably have that feeling deep down inside that they want more. But there are cases where this isn't so. Sometimes, you're just not attracted to that girl, but you enjoy having her company as a friend. That is entirely possible.
I'm a girl and I've been friends with plenty of guys and neither of us had feelings for us. How can I be they didn't like me, right? It's called honesty. It's also called having mutual friends...
Oh yeah, girls and guys can be platonic friends. I have lots of female friends that are just that. As you can see though, it is increasingly difficult if that person has a partner.
To be honest tho, strictly from what you've said above it is more about your guy friend than you. It is a test. His gf is playing games to test the extent of her will over him. Whether she can make him go against something he likes doing for her sake. As you said, she has no reason to be threatened. So she'll throw out those trick questions, "Do you like spending time with her more than with me?", "Is she so important to you that she has to hang out with you all the time?", etc. Where the only right answer is to assure her that she is the single most important person in the world to him, or he's in the dog house. Don't get too frazzled by this. It's just the way things go...
Yeah - agreed. It does sound like his girlfriend has some insecurity issues too.
I mean honestly, friends for 8 years, and nothing's happened beyond that, and he's got a girlfriend now? Nothing else is gonna happen. So your friend's girlfriend really needs to take a chill pill. :\
^_^ its possible! but its very very difficult to maintain. guys have things they talk about only with other guys, just as girls have girl talks... >_> 1 accidental night changes everything.
ratings!
Friendship: 30% chance
Girlfriend: 75% chance
yes it's possible ^w^ some relationships are meant only at that level - otherwise it wouldn't work at all :)
yes, guys and girls can be just friends. I have a wide circle of close friends and many of them are male.
Frankly, I think its possible; difficult in some cases(crush), but possible. I have this childhood friend who I have known for roughly 12-13 years; she's my best friend! While I DO tend to get a tad bit overprotective sometimes, I still see her as a friend. Thats just my opinion though...
well I have many male friends ^^; but most of them treat me like a bratty sister :P
Are you saying that you are a brat?
I don't think I will ever treat a girl/woman like a (my) sister. Being siblings means you do stuff together, then annoy each other, have a fight and then you are friends again and you do it over and over. I wouldn't be able to have that kind of relationship with anybody else.
Maybe they bring out the brat in me when they tease and joke around :P but basically yes they treat me like a sister which is equivilant to friends forever zone.
Sure. I'm surrounded by guy friends since I was small. Granted that few ended up as more than friend but the rest are still my buddies with no romantic feelings involved.
and I can't think of any anime except for one: Seirei no Moribito.
It can be done, it just depends on how the others will react to it, all it takes is a simple miss understanding (or not) to ruin that balance.
all my girl friends were just friends. so its totally possible if the mind is clean of any love thoughts or any echi thoughts. i wonder why your friends girl did not have any trust in him though. she must have felt he was spending more time with you than her and got jealous. just like in anime.
My group of friends compose of 3 guys and 3 girls. We are just friends.. Nothing more...
It really depends on who your friends are.
I have friends that are guys too and have done for years. I'm the kind of person who actually feels more comfortable around guys then I do girls. I don't like how girls can be so bitchy and cruel to eachother. A lot of the girls I have been friends with ended up ruining it because they were fine one day and the next they were a monster. I hate that most girls I meet are the type who get all bitchy behind your back, or they make everything some kind of competition.
Guys aren't like that. I can play computer games and watch transformers with other guys and they won't tease me for it, or say I should watch 'girls movies' and read fashion mags instead. Guys don't comment behind my back that my handbag totally doesn't match todays jacket either.
I much prefer hanging out with guys and have never encountered any problems with relationships going too far. It's always been just good friends, and I'm cool with that.
Yesssssss! Thats how I feel! Why are girls so bitchy? I'm not that bitchy.... It may be cos I grew up in a home full'o'guys and just grew up more comfortable around guys(?).(Father+2 brothers, while mother was at work more). Doesn't help that I was exposed to Star Trek + Doctor Who from an early age, my mother kinda balanced it out with Pride n Predjudice though(Colin Firth version, yum!).
Girls are too two-faced and bitchy, ALL the girls in my group of friends can be bitchy when they want, which is pretty often... I stayed impartial whenever there was a dispute, easier that way, and stayed friends with both sides when there was a split in the group.
And what they wanna do is more fun, gaming and movies are much preferable to fashion mags and chick flicks. Though I do love chick flicks, long as theres an actor I like in em, something to look at if nothing else lol. And we had a deal on our anime marathon, if I had to watch stuff like Naruto, he had to watch my choice of anime as a kind of torture lol. Clannad :woop: He didnt mind Kannagi, but though Haruhi was totally evil, which she kinda is really. Like the Mikuru movie ep 00 though lol.
Pride n Predjudice... my sister bought the DVD set because "she wanted to learn real English spoken by English people and not Americans". Sounds reasonable yet I ended up having to listen to her talking about Colin Firth for a month or so. Not only how great he was acting in Pride n Predjudice, but also everything she could find about him online ^^;
She has improved her English quite a lot and I have to say that the story seems interesting. I haven't got around to actually watch the whole thing though.
It's no fair that you can grow up with Star Trek and while I wish I could then I couldn't. In fact I didn't even see any Star Trek until I was 14 or 15 and then they gave it the timeslot around 1 O'clock, meaning I had to stay up until some stupid hour if I wanted to watch it. I think I was 18 or 20 before I could watch it at a an agreeable time of the day but then it was like watching it raw because it was with foreign subtitles. Luckily my English at that time had improved enough to make that a minor issue.
I haven't encountered this personally. All the "monsters" were monsters to begin with when I first met them. I once encountered a guy who were like this. He was friendly and after playing at my place (this was when I was 13 or something) it appeared like he planned the whole thing. He had looked at everything at my place and used information that he had gathered to bully me in a way which hurt me personally because it was about my stuff at home, my family and so on. Once he turned mean he didn't go back to be nice though.
My sister has serious problems with girls who are nice and then monsters and then nice. The thing is that the worst kind of bullying is when nice people bully you. People can handle nice and not so nice people, but we can't handle unpredictable people. From what my sister tells me girls can be real monsters. Guys are more direct like "you did something which hurt me. Let's have a fight" and then they fight (physically or verbally) and then it's done. Girls are more like "You did something I didn't like, but that's ok" and then they are mean in a well hidden way for days or weeks. At least that's my impression. Naturally there are exceptions though.
I saw a test about conflicts at the job. They placed hidden cameras and made the new guy in the office really annoying to see how people reacted. Women started sending looks around telling they were annoyed and sent emails to each other telling that this guy is annoying. The result was that he didn't stop being annoying (he didn't get the message) while everybody within 10 metres ended up doing no work at all for the half and hour the test lasted. When the test were repeated elsewhere some guys happened to be within the range of being annoyed. The women started doing the very same (sending looks and stuff) while the guys walked up to the annoying guy and told him to stop making noises. It was an interesting result because the didn't make the test gender specific yet it was so clear that the results depended on gender.
I used to have an answer to this predicament of yours. Back then I'd say yes of course you can be just friends. But after my real close friend turned girl friend ended our relationship, I don't know anymore. :P but for all things accounted for, just as long as you don't end up together, then I don't see what's wrong with being just friends.
Sometimes people like to think whenever a guy in a group of girls, people would think that he's gay or something.
Well, personally, of course, I don't really think so.
He could become a little feminine, since he only get female friends. But sometimes, there's even some people who live as he is, a guy, with his female friends. Other guy, of course, would be jealous by his 'fame' XD
But also, in some case,(I got in this... A little) there's guys who got pretty much oblivious to females. Could be caused by so many reason, in my case, I think maybe a trauma(and I don't want to speak about it -.-)
Sometimes guys said 'Girls are so unpredictable' while actually the girls said something similiar too sometimes.
You can't really guess. Back then, when I have female figures, my friends(guys) said that I'm too girlish, collecting 'barbies'. I only laughed over and over again by their lack of information, in their face, it's clearly seen that their sarcasm turned out to be a very funny humor to me XD
Different reaction by the girls, they gave me different reactions. Some of them said that they're impressed by my hobbies, some of them said that they're actually interested, and much else, including my mechas o.o"
Even though as I said, I'm a little bit oblivious, the natural instinct of male and females(yes, I really mean one to thousands XD) still inside, so that's why I'm still interested to meet and understand them, since I have stories involved females, so I need to understand well, too :D
I don't see why not. It's not like a deeper relationship forms EVERYTIME someone hangs out with a group of the opposite gender. In other words, it's normal for you to stay "just friends" with your guy friends.
Although relationships try to form SOMETIMES. Take my case for example. One of my female friends, whom I knew since grade school, confessed to me when we where in high school. I turned her down because I only see her as a friend. Although we both felt awkward with each other after that for a few days, in the end we went back to our usual relationship as friends.
I don't know why some cultures say that it's wrong for a girl and a boy to just stay friends. Personally, I find that idea ridiculous.
As you have stated, there's one way a girl/guy relationship can be platonic, which is having the same interest. This will probably keep their minds off anything that will jeopardize the relationship.
somehow i find myself agreeing to that. mroe like it keeps the guy from having any other thoughts, but the girl could want to develop something. Either way, it would be able to keep the relationship stable
Initially, guys are easier to arouse visually, so it would help a lot if the girl is nerdy-looking or not too beautiful, while girls will be safer if the guy isn't too cool... at least that was my experience. After quite some time these things will not matter anymore, so it depends on their characters and commitments...
On the tram a few days ago I saw 2 guys and a girl hanging out. Nothing stood out to me that any of them were couples, it just looked like 3 friends hanging out. Anyone can be friends; race, age, etc. Why does gender have to be different?
I do wish I could meet a few girls interested in techy geeky stuff. Hanging around guys is perfectly fine, but at times a different environment is always nice. Different people offer different outlooks on things. Everyone's different, and it's those differences that make other interesting.
It's hard to tell if she has a problem with you or him. I can sort of see why she could be worried but at the same time if she fails to trust him then the relationship aren't healthy. At the same time maybe gender doesn't matter. Some girls refuse to accept that their boyfriend spends time with his friends (be it male or female).
To be honest I wouldn't know how I would deal with a girlfriend who were handing out with a guy. I guess it highly depends on the people in question. It's a difficult question and I honestly can't say if she is freaking out for nothing or if she has detected signs that you haven't. Maybe "Kyle" haven't detected such signs either.
I didn't answer the main question. Can you be just friends even if you happen to be different genders. Well I would like to believe that. I once tried to be friends with a girl but all of a sudden she went like "I prefer girls so I will never see you again" and then she started to avoid me (like she would rather wait for the next bus than getting into the same one as me and so on). I think some girl told her something to make her change like this, otherwise it makes no sense.
I wish I could say that I have several female friends who are just friends, but sadly I can't. The main reason is that engineering is a guys world so I meet way to few women and the ones I meet are... well special :(
However I can say that I get along really great with my sister so I know that girls aren't "weird dangerous and gross beings" ^^
We can do all sorts of stuff together and gender isn't really an issue. It was one time though because I tripped and fell face first right into her oppai while she was lying on her bed reading. She thought I had come up with a strange naughty plan and in reality I just hurt my nose really bad so I just stayed there in pain and talking about hurting my nose until I realised what had happened D:
lol Your incident with your sister is so like an anime situation.
I know it can work both ways, so there really is no reason for it not to work, and I'll continue to believe that I'll get something right sometimes in my life.
Having said that, any female friends I've had have tended to be at least semi-attractive to me, even though not completely my type.
*glazes over past experience*
The single biggest problem in this equation is though, that when you're comfortable enough as very good friends, you're usually comfortable enough for the instinct to procreate, and well lets not be silly here, but we all get bored/lonely/horny at times.
Friends are support and usually an instinct to live in groups and an asnwer to loneliness, and sex the instinct to procreate and an answer to healthcare.
When you don't have a partner and you're physically attracted, the disctinctions (thanks to the way our brains are wired) are very blurry.
But in my experience I haven't had a fully blown awesome mutual friendship with a member of the opposite gender yet, one side has always beeen biased, even if they didn't think they were. It has been my fault, and the opposite sides fault too.
It doesn't have to be a male/female relationship for that to happen. Some guy once came on to me and didn't take no for an answer. I can't remember the details in the fight but I told him something about using the fact that he claimed to speak to girls on a daily basis. Eventually I said something about if he wanted to do somebody just to do somebody nomatter who it was then pick his sister instead of me (he said he wanted practice, not that he wanted me) and then the real fight broke out. Eventually he took some of my stuff and ran away and I haven't seen him since. I had known him for 4-5 years at that time. I have been thinking about this to see if I had any indication that this could happen and so far I haven't found any. Looks like something just snapped in him or something.
Yeah its definitely possible that guys and girls can just be friends, I see examples of it everyday. I don't know why people would assume otherwise.
I think maybe people associate two close friends of opposite genders to only be together due to attraction and some people may find it hard to distinguish this to actual friendship.
Totally, It's always been something of a sticking point for me that parts of society seem to think that if two people of the opposite sex are mates they they'll eventually get together. I think the style of the friendship can be a bit different than it may be between two blokes or two girls... you know, the pretending to be together just to freak people out or to get rid of an annoying hanger-on (been there, done both).
I've run into similar problems with a friend's boyfriend apparently deciding I was a threat... to the point that he refuses to talk to me, screwed up situation that I'm not going to go into. 'cept to say that we've got a few girls in our group of friends, and when things go down the clanger I'm the one who seems to wind up playing girlfriend "yes, he's a barstard, you should really just get out of there", it's a good thing I keep odd hours =P
That said, I can kinda see where your friend's gf is coming from too. It's pretty difficult sometimes if there's someone else around who patently knows your other half better than you do. I had that with my ex (amiable breakup), but she had a mate who I got along great with... but he'd know her longer than me so all the in-jokes he got but I didn't. Feeling like the outsider in that situation can be tough no matter what you tell yourself.
Umm, I was going somewhere with that... but no idea where. But yeah, platonic relationship, thumbs up.
Oh... racking my brain for an anime or manga where the girl and guy remain friends, drawing a blank... sort of, can't think of any that are romance-free at least. I think the reason for that is that a lot of this stuff is targeted at ronery Otaku, gotta dish out the hope somehow... it's a nice fantasy how some of these relationships eventuate =P Argh, I'm trying to find some way of saying it without sounding like a prick, or like I'm condemning that (I'm not, I think). But yeah, I think it's just a case of knowing your target audience.
I think it's possible...if a tad difficult, to be completely platonic. x_x At least that's how it's been for me. Most of my friends are girls, to tell the truth, mainly because I just find them easier to talk to. A lot of the guys around me talk about either sports, drinking, or getting laid. The first and second I have no interest in, and the last I find simply vulgar.
I think it's safe to say that I have entertained thoughts of a relationship with basically every female friend I've had. But only for a moment, even if there *are* a few that I've harbored secret crushes for. Every now and then I wonder what it would be like, but they never amount to anything since I know I'm not serious about it. Just because I find some of my female friends attractive, doesn't mean I have to be in a relationship with them to hang out.
So really, my relationship with them is platonic.
I can understand why your friend's girlfriend may feel jealous and even if threatened, though. It's inevitable. When you're dating, you want to be the one who knows your partner the most. When someone else seems to know them better, you can't be help but feel insecure no matter how pretty or nice *you* are because what matters most is that there's someone closer to the object of your affections.
It sounds to me this is a nice girl indeed. It's already been 2 years and she's tried to connect with him on geek turf before voicing a complaint. If it were me I would've done so much sooner - I know I got quite jealous of one of my ex-gf's guy friends. Doesn't make it any more rational and any less stupid, but relationships rarely work that way.
As for anime/manga...plenty of examples. >_> Harem anime where only one girl gets the guy and said girl claims the guy before the close friend has a chance. ;) (Note: if "close friend" is in fact "childhood friend", probability of her being the "one girl" rises exponentially.)
I agree with you about the first two ones and the last... well why would you talk to guys about that ^^
What you say sounds reasonable. Having a crush for a friend isn't really something you should talk about right away because it's quite possible that it will pass in a week or a month and when it passes it would have ruined everything if you have talked about it. Once you talk you can't to back to the relationship you had before the talk, even if both of you want to.
I think it's in the nature of the woman mind to feel insecure about other women. I read an article about a an experiment which revealed that when women looks for a partner they prefer to lure men away from their partners rather than go for single men. If this really is in our nature then it would be natural for women that once they get a man, they will fight off rivals in order to keep him. Intellectually this makes little or no sense, but relationships are based on feelings rather than serious intellectual thoughts. People even do it with the wrong person because they feel like it in the moment and then they regret it afterwards because they realise how stupid it was to do it. Even with all our high tech accomplishments we are still basically just a mammal at core and acts like it once in a while.
Well, I guess platonic relationships are possible. Within my groups of friends, majority of them are male. I would draw the line when going out with my female friends since I have already experienced how quickly girls can change when you do something and I totally regret it :/ Now I try to distance myself so that we can maintain the relationship.
Nevertheless, I always keep this in my mind: "Girls are scary -_-"
its possible for it to happen, particular if you grew up together you can see each other as like brother/sister in a way i guess, instead of seeing them as a Guy or Girl, you see them as your best friend / buddy. but it does really depend on teh personality of the people involved. specially if you do things in front of them through habit that they would normally associate with anyone else as teasing and flirting and such. its really such a hard place to maintain, and when *other* people come into the picture, jealousy and hate does come up big time. i say.. just let things flow naturally. even tho we all desire to be friends forever, sometimes people just grow apart through lifes changes.
Eh, of course it's possible. It's just that any kind of media tends to say otherwise, in that guys and girls together always lead to awkward situations, even if it turns out ok in the end :P
I tend to get along better with guys than girls anyway. Or at least I don't get along well with the extra girly girls since I just can't be like that all the time, nor can I stand inane small talk about stuff I don't care about (I'm terrible at it, even at looking interested...I just sit there and drink coffee and daydream, heh).
And while there is no question that I am moody and emotional (oh yes...), I rarely get bitchy for no reason and have zero jealousy bones in my body, so I really get annoyed with that kind of stuff too. So yeah, I have guy friends that are just friends, and this is a mutual feeling (in other words, no interest on their end either). My best friend is a guy and I'm like a sister to him, as well as him being like a brother to me.
But in anime/manga, yeah I agree that there are very very few instances of a guy and a girl remaining just friends without even a little hint of attraction at some point in the story.
Despite this, I believe that it comes as a case by case basis. Some people overanalyze things and see signs that aren't there, leading to misunderstandings. It depends on the person's personality really. I have a very easy-going personality that just lets things come as they do and work out how they work out, which is kind of my defense mechanism for stress I think, since if I'm not like that, stress really eats me alive.
I think as a side effect of this, I can also be rather dense, or so I've been told, so for me to get that someone is interested in me, they'd have to hit me over the head with a mallet or some such thing. So no misunderstandings for me, you just have to be up front with me if you have a non-friendly interest in me. But for people who are the complete opposite and read every action, I can see how it'd be harder for them to maintain friendships with the opposite gender.
A least this is how I see it ;) Meh, what do I know...
Hmmm... a female nurse student who just sits there and daydream and who enjoys the company of guys and doesn't really like the girls talk and aren't jealous at all. I can see why guys would be interested in spending time with you xD
j/k
Seriously though you have a good point. The problems between genders are made by media and stereotypes. Well I guess splitting children in daycare centres in genders and age aren't ideal either to make people get along later on. It's not like the gender split means different rooms, but girls plays with girls and boys with boys. The stereo type female student is one who are in a group of female students and they spent ages talking about boring non-sense like fashion. I'm happy to see that you aren't such a stereotype and I hope that there are quite a lot of people who doesn't fit a stereotype.
"...for me to get that someone is interested in me, they'd have to hit me over the head with a mallet or some such thing."
Yeah, that sounds horribly familiar... sometimes of course it's useful, but other times it can be really frustrating as well.
I guess that's possible, but from my experience, it depends more on the guy rather than the girl...
I got some friends who seems able to tune in seamlessly with girls... regardless of their sexual preference.... My close friend have a lot of girls as friends... more than dude as friend, in fact, I'm probably his only close male friend....
While for me, I don't know, I can get along with girls just fine... but sooner than later, I would either find myself attracted to the girl, or find that having her as a friend is just annoying... Yea, it's just hard for me to have girl as friend, I can't really word it well, it's just a combination of not as fun, tiring, and annoying.... But if it's something like hanging out together with bunch of girls (whether i'm the only dude or not) seems fine to me, but having a close friend relationship that's simply just platonic, with a girl, I don't think I can handle that... like i said, either i find myself liking the girl, or ended up unable to stand her....
I really honestly agree.. And pretty much.. So do all the guys I know. Its really difficult to have that sort of relationship. Only a couple of girls I'm totally friends with.. cause we have really similar interests.. and I have no desire to ever sleep with them. EVER. Thats the only thing keeping the friendship going.. Is there isn't that problem of peeps getting crushes.. etc.. etc.
The human mind will get confuse & later crossed the line~~~
GUYS AND GIRLS CAN JUST BE FRIENDS THEY NEED TO KNOW WHAT LINES TO CROSS AND NOT CROSS ALTHOUGH THIS IS A TOUGHY. YOU WILL KNOW WHEN THE TIMES COMES. YOU WILL KNOW
Some of my closest, oldest friends are of the female variety.
It's certainly possible, it's definitely potentially positive... and it absolutely requires boundaries. Some of my most treasured friendships, as strong as they were, barely survived due to, shall we say, confusion. Sometimes the confusion was one (or both!) parties developing feelings or being attracted. Sometimes it was simply some one being mistaken that the other party harbored romantic feelings. Either way, being respectful of each other, each others' romantic interests, and having wise boundaries protected the friendship.
While everything you say may be accurate, I do detect a wee bit of pride on your part for succeeding to connect with your friend in a way his girlfriend cannot. Caution is due.
There is pride hehe. I also laugh that I make her insecure. When she's as adorable and awesome as she is, she has nothing to worry about.
It's partly cos I've know him alot longer than she has lol. She's got geekier as times gone by though, so its all good.
I definitely think it possible. In fact most of my friends are female, been that way since I moved to the states. lol
In my experience a lot of the guys in my area are completely single minded, or close minded, so getting along with them is a challenge.
I have a very close friend who is male and our relationship is like brother and sister. It's nice ^^ The thought of it going any further makes us think of incest O_o
*nods* Wud be weird... I get on with this guy like I get on with my bro, only my bro is far bitchier/grumpier lol.
sure y not. i have a lot of close female pals.
and yet being single helps.
Hmm... I think it is possible to be friends if there is mutual understanding and trust between them but, for most part platonic feelings seem to take a step further if given an opportunity. My previous ex's all started out as friends, moved to a brotherly basis, totally geeking out and everything... and then comes the confession. Which always ends up being a surprise for me since I've been told I'm slow to realise such matters *>_>*;;;
I'm usually fairly unaware if any move is trying to be made haha, spose its cos I've just been friends with most of the guys I've known over the years....
Tho if I am aware, I'm *very* aware, too aware usually lol.
I do have allot of co-workers that I see as friends on regular basis.
Yes, guys and girls can be just friends completely. I don't see how this is odd.
Maybe just as an example, not every friend have to be "your type"... There is a lot of points of view about it...
I've never understood how people think that guys and girls can't be 'just friends'. The vast majority of the friends I had growing up, and even now, have been and are guys. If anything, I don't get along with girls very well because I've always been more of a tomboy and haven't liked much 'girly' stuff - not when it comes to the stereotypical things like obsessing over guys and makeup and whatnot. I've found I can be more open with guys because girls backstab, and you unfortunately have to watch what you say around the vast majority of them.
So I suppose if anything, it's a wonder that other girls can be friends with the same sex! I know I haven't really been able to.
Its so true... Most of the time, I've found guys ALOT easier to talk to, our gender's so bitchy... its a shame how backstabby+crazy we seem to be... *sigh*
lol, girls never did look my way. And they labelled me anti social when I was growing up, well what do you expect if you're not stimulated enough and you were bullied and had a negative view on life due to your first interaction with people?
very possible^^ to me, friends hold a lot more value than lovers can ever have.
be careful though, there's a possibility that ur pal suddenly decides s/he feels something for you, when that happens, nice boat ending lololol
yes, it's possible in my case. When I was in highschool I met this girl and I've been visiting her room everyday to study, chat, eat, chess and pretty much anything. It's been like that in our whole stay in highschool, but nothing love-related stuff ever developed between us. Actually it never came across my mind. The feeling's like I have to deal with the Endless Witch whenever I visit her. But it was fun. Today, she's married to a guy from our high school, and I got my own gf's and ex's to deal with.
From what ive seen standing here on the side lines yes, guys and girls can be just friends.
I guess it just depends on the group people surround themselve with and there general character.